No shocker here: There were more deaths than there were births in 2020

The US birthrate has dropped again, for the sixth straight year to be exact. But is that really a shocker? We all know that the economic climate in the United States has been volatile for quite some time, so I don’t find this information to be all that staggering. What is interesting, though, is that there were actually more deaths in 2020 than there were births. When you consider the toll of the pandemic, this information also doesn’t seem like it’s all that surprising. But get this: There were just over 3.6 million babies born in 2020 – which is the lowest it’s been since 1979. A decrease in immigration and a higher number of deaths in the last decade has resulted in the country’s population to have expanded at the second-slowest rate since the government started keeping track in the 18th century.

A total of twenty-five states had more deaths than births last year, up from just five states at the end of 2019.

There are a few reasons why the birthrate has decreased. Many women are choosing to wait longer in life before having kids. Studies find that there are less jobs available to younger people that are able to provide a wage that can support a family. Lots of people are pursuing education and careers instead of children – which makes sense. People want to be able to financially support their families, and the age of being able to do that is now much older than it has been in the past.

Another reason the birthrate is going down is because many women are deciding that they don’t want to have kids. Children are expensive and women are more independent than ever before. It’s becoming more socially acceptable for women to not become mothers.

In all, I don’t find this to be really all that surprising. I think it just shows how fragile people find the economy and how much they value different things than they did just years ago. I’m currently pregnant with my second, and to tell you the truth, I don’t know what we are going to do once this new baby arrives. We already pay $500 a month on daycare, which is honestly on the low end for childcare expenses. Add another child to that and it turns to $1,000 a month just for daycare. I make less than $800 every paycheck after taxes and insurance fees come out. Not to mention, my insurance will go up after adding another child to it. How am I supposed to afford $1,000 in childcare, a mortgage, a phone, an electricity bill, internet, groceries, gas, and more on less than $600 a month? It may just end up where I have to put aside my career for a bit and stay home with the kids. I’ve been considering my options, but it all seems very bleak. In a time that should be very happy and exciting, there are so many obstacles that I’m trying to figure out how to overcome. No wonder people don’t want to have kids. There just isn’t enough help out there for us.

The decrease in the birthrate is going to affect the economy, and we don’t yet know how that will impact our taxes and programs. There are going to be less workers in the workforce, so I’d assume we will get hit with more money coming out of our pockets. The US seems to be a very uncertain place these days. This is a big social change, so who knows how it’s going to be dealt with. Only the future can tell.


The Sheet

Life feels like there is a sheet over top of it

It’s not too hot right now, but there isn’t much to look at and

nothing is really happening.

I guess that could be a good thing. People claim, “No news is good news!”

But how can we be too sure?

This sheet may be blocking it all out. But I don’t know how to get it off.

I’ve tossed and turned, and thrown my arms up in perplexity

The sheet doesn’t halt me, it’s more of a nuisance.

I know it shouldn’t be over top of me, but the comfort of its hug is nice.

Maybe the sheet is keeping all of the bad out?

But maybe it’s not letting the good in?

For so long it felt like there was always something new to worry about

We had to keep our eyes open. Our hearts guarded.

Life is finally starting to feel like it’s calming down.

And maybe that is why I don’t want this sheet off of me.

I’m scared that once the sheet is removed, I’ll be tossed back into chaos

I can’t go back

I need the normalcy of a schedule

I like to plan the future

Uncertainty gives me anxiety

Please, oh, please

Don’t tell me the only thing keeping all of that away

is this sheet dawned over me…

EOD Thoughts: 12.01.2020

December? DECEMBER! Who let it be December already?

That’s okay, I’m looking forward to Christmas this year and the END OF 2020! Then right around the corner in January, our daughter turns two. I have a hard time grasping how it’s been almost two years since she was born. It’s been two of the hardest but most rewarding two years of my life.

I hate to be “that guy,” but I don’t think 2021 is going to look much different than 2020 for quiiiite awhile. I would say it’ll be at least through May that we will be dealing with this pandemic. Of course the economic consequences of it will be here much longer.

Who knows what the future holds…

I’m tired of worrying about what is coming next. I’m tired of the gloomy suspense and anxiety.

I wish I could easily release my tension and stress, but I know that that’s just not how I roll.

Buuut I will keep on rollin.

EOD Thoughts: 10.28.2020

My work schedule is currently two days in the office and three days working from home. I went in to the office today and although I like working from home, going into the office is kind of nice because I get the chance to interact with people and I definitely am more productive when I’m in the office.

We must wear masks when we are up there unless we are at our own personal cubicles. There is a temperature check machine that we must use before we even clock in, and sanitizer is found all over the building. I appreciate that they are taking precautions and I really do feel like the entire company cares about the safety of their employees (Ignore the fact that the CEO and President of the company both went to a huge wedding and both contracted the virus).

I’ve pretty much been in the house since the end of June, so something as simple as going into the office to work gets me excited. I love my kid and all, but only hanging out with a toddler for four months can make a person go a liiiittle bit crazy…

I may as well get used to being at home because it looks like the region of our state will go back into regulation tomorrow, as our governor has mandated that three consecutive days of an 8+ percent positivity rate will result in curfews, no more indoor dining, and business closures at 9pm. I know we don’t always agree with those “in charge,” but I can tell you right now I would not want to be the one making these life and death decisions. It’s a tough place to be in. Families of small businesses are at risk of losing everything and others are losing their lives. How can you possibly make a decision that pleases everyone? I just ask that you all make sure you are doing your part to help. Wash your hands and wear your mask when necessary.

I hope you all are doing well and I look forward to hearing from some of you! 🙂


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